first birthday - Am I being a party pooper?

I don't want to do a big party or give her cake! She's never eaten sweets or cake or anything and I really don't want to give her some just because that's what everyone does on the first birthday. I will have a nice dinner with family and give her some sort of fun healthy treat if I can figure out what that is!
Am I being a little over the top or is this okay?

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Permalink Reply by Anci on October 9, 2008 at 11:24pm: There was a thread like this on here,somewhere, but anyways, I don't thing you are over the top at all.
I am not going to make any big party...and I told everyone that...I am not going to make anything special, just us , the family, I won;t send out any invites...who remembers and wants to show up...well, they'll be welcomed. I will probably buy a cake and let her ''dig in'' it for the pictures only,(she's never had sweets either) but other than that..like I said nothing special. We went to my niece's first birthday party,back in April, and there were a lot of people, she was tired and cranky and couldn't nap because all of the noise...all that for what?? I don't want my daughter to go through that...
She won't know what it means anyways. We'll have time for parties when she'll get older.
And about the healthy treat...I found an organic cupcakes recipe, pretty healthy....let me look for it ....see if I can find that website again....here it is http://www.recipezaar.com/recipe/print?id=297882
I think that's what I am gonna do...not really sure yet but it's an option.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Anime on October 9, 2008 at 11:27pm: Okay I feel better! I understand the photo op and that she'll be seeing that for the rest of her life but it's just one moment and I would rather her have a nice day and be on her regular routine etc. and not be all crazy and sugared up! Plus I hate planning stuff and would rather just go with the flow!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Mary Ann on October 11, 2008 at 12:00pm: I think I was the one who asked a similar question a little while ago. Anka's 1st bday is coming up on November 2, and we've decided not to invite anyone to a party. We'll hang out that day with my parents and my sister, do some fun family things, and then have a nice dinner and "party" with just us. Anka's having trouble with dairy, so I'm not sure I'll even make a cake or cupcake for her -- the frosting is the fun part, and she wouldn't be able to do that anyway. As far as presents go, we've decided just to get a nice set of wooden blocks for her. She doesn't have any yet, and it's something she'll have fun with for a while. That's our plan, and I'm feeling relieved not to have to do any more than that.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Anci on October 11, 2008 at 12:41pm: Mary Ann that recipe , the cupcakes have no egg and no dairy so they are a nice treat for anyone with allergies. You might give it a try.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Anime on October 11, 2008 at 1:05pm: Thanks for the imput guys... also wish Anka a happy birthday for me since her's is the same as Sadie's! I guess we'll all be doing the same thing on Sunday! - Then I go back to work for the first time in a year on Monday boo hoo! (I am lucky in Canada we can take a year off); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Mary Ann on October 11, 2008 at 5:28pm: I will ... thanks!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Oz on October 21, 2008 at 9:39pm: Mary Ann, you might also try this milk and butter-free recipe from the Petit Appetit cookbook author (minus the frosting, unfortunately): http://organictobe.org/index.php/2007/07/27/let-them-eat-cup-cakes-.... Her cookbook does a nice job labeling which recipes have certain allergens in them.

My son's birthday is Nov 1 - the day before your daughter's! Happy birthday to her!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Anci on October 22, 2008 at 1:47pm: hey I am NOv 1 too lool...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by darlene on October 11, 2008 at 4:21pm: I don't think you're being over-the-top at all. zoe is only six months old and i'm already thinking about her 1st birthday party - pretty much exactly what you just stated above. The later she tries sweets the better: i'll stick a candle in a bowl of cheeries...;) the nice family dinner sounds perfect.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Hilliary on October 11, 2008 at 11:07pm: From what my mom told me about first birthdays, they have more fun playing with wrapping paper and boxes than eating cake anyway....hahaha. There's quite a bit of sensibility in choosing a healthy alternative over "well - my mom did it and I turned out okay...". My daughter's birthday is in January. I'm going to let her unwrap a toy or two and have her first strawberry and dab of honey. And why not have a celebration for yourselves (for making it this far - LOL!).; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kathleen on October 18, 2008 at 9:30pm: I really think first birthday parties are more for the parents than the kids- a one-year old isn't going to remember it for the rest of her life or anything.

When my older son turned one, we let a few friends and family members know they could drop by for cake/muffins and juice/tea in the evening, but we didn't do anything big, and he went to bed 1/2 way through the party. It meant more to us, anyway.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jennifer on October 18, 2008 at 11:44pm: I agree. I think it's more for the parents too. I've been thinking about how we will celebrate our son's 1st birthday next June and can't help but feel pressure from what our families will think if we didn't make a big deal of it. (sorry for the run on sentence!) LOL!; ▶ Reply to This