first birthday - Am I being a party pooper?

[Anime]

I don't want to do a big party or give her cake! She's never eaten sweets or cake or anything and I really don't want to give her some just because that's what everyone does on the first birthday. I will have a nice dinner with family and give her some sort of fun healthy treat if I can figure out what that is!
Am I being a little over the top or is this okay?

[Oz]

We're going to have a party, but I know it's totally for us. I think you do whatever will be best for you and your family - and if you want to do something casual and low-key, then I think that's totally okay. And if it makes you feel any better, now that I'm deep in party planning, I am questioning my own sanity a bit.

[Ms Savvy Mom]

I'm a bit crazy to and earned every ounce of my insanity. My Lil Zeus is 6 months old and i'm already planning his 1st birthday. I love parties so it works for us. We are having a dr. seuss theme and instead of elaborate over priced gifts guests have the option of bringing their favorite dr seuss book which will double as party decor. We are part of a bunch of mommy groups with kids so the fun is for everyone and Zeus truely enjoys hanging out with his homies. I'm one of those moms that loves to capture every moment on film maybe because i have so few pics of myself growing up. Parents both passed when i was young so no memories of early childhood birthdays. Wont be the same for Z. Maybe he'll appreciate it maybe he wont either way we do it out of love.

[Zicea Becks]

I threw all 6 of my kids 1st birthday parties.

There was always someone who had kids close to my kid's age, so they were invited, and there majority of the party games and what not were for them because a 1 year old is cranky or being passed around and swooned over by guest.

My kids don't eat a lot of junk (Mama does however) so for them to have cake is not a big deal. I'm not for them having junk all the time, but i'm not anti-sweets. So cake is fine. No one is going to die from a bit of cake...that a 1 year old messes over anyways.

My Goddaughter, Antonia (her father is my best friend and her mother signed away all rights to him during delivery...so he's a single dad) had her 1st birthday back in May, and his (the father Chris) family is from Mexico City and the maternal grandparents and family are all over the U.S so I had to fly people in for the celebration. She is the first grand child on both sides, and they're latino, so you know we had to party. Antonia mostly gave people dirty looks and whined for her daddy (he spoils her like crazy). She had a half a bite of cake and probably ate more ceviche than anything.

My point is, everyone does something different. It's your baby, and lets be real, your party..so do what you feel like doing.

I don't think it's over the top..it sounds nice and stress-free.