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Comment by Heidi on December 31, 2008 at 11:04am

Sounds like we have a lot in common! Though I do have to give my husband credit... He does get up most mornings with the little guy and changes his fair share or poopy diapers. I guess my biggest complaint is that I feel overwhelmed a lot of the time. I make the vast majority of the income, manage the bills (or at least try to) and manage the household. At it often feels like I can't do any of them as well as I would like. Then it feels like he is throwing it in my face when I am still folding laundry at 10pm while he is lounging on the couch with a cocktail.

Comment by aussiemum21 on November 27, 2008 at 6:02pm

Hi Zicea Becks, I too would never want my partner to be a stay at home dad, but it would be nice to get the help. Sometimes I think that he has this mentality that he earns more therefore he does less to help! Though I do have to admit that the same as your husband he tends to play with my son more than he does help with the housework, and sometimes that bit of time that he spends entertaining a 9 month old is a blessing for me, as it gives me time to focus on something else!

Comment by Zicea Becks on November 27, 2008 at 1:35pm

Hey AussieMum21!

Welcome!


Yes, It sucks that men tend to be lazy when it comes to helping out with the kids. I kinda goes to show that they think (at least subconsciously) that it's the 'woman's job' to take care of the kids.


Some women luck up and get a guy that will do everything, or even stay at home to be with the kids fulltime.

I wouldn't want my husband to be a stay at home father, but to each it's own.


My husband helps sometimes...he likes to play with them versus actually buckling down and making them clean up or take baths.

He admitted to me a few nights ago that I am very particular about how I run the house, so he's never sure what to do, or if he's doing it right.....
...considering our issues right now (see Married Life group), I'll buy that and be more vocal and detailed with what I need from him as a parent.

Comment by aussiemum21 on November 27, 2008 at 6:58am

Hi all I never realised how many working mums out there have problems getting help from their partners/husband. When I had my son I was more than happy to be the one that did a majority of the household chores, but now being back at work I need the extra help, even though my partner works nights so he isnt around much to help me out, I still come home every day and see him for about half an hour then he goes. I come home after work and picking up my son, I walk through the door carrying two bags and my son, I then have to sort my son out and start straight on cleaning rubbish and odd bits in between getting time with my partner. This all happens whilst my partner sits and watches tv. Some nights I wont finish and finally relax for myself until after 9pm. I do all the shopping paying of bills laundry cooking and household chores on my own. Its good to know I am not the only one going through this.... well no..... no one should be going through this, we earn an income too, we are no ones slave!!!

Comment by ContessaMia on November 19, 2008 at 11:20am

http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Slow-Cooker-Turkey-Breast/Detail.aspx

Comment by ContessaMia on November 19, 2008 at 11:20am

How about making just the turkey breast (for tradition's sake if your attached), you can actually roast it in in a dutch oven or slow cooker to save some space! Here's an example recipie

Comment by Marie-Ève Laforte on November 19, 2008 at 11:17am

Mhhh... Chinese take-out? Just kidding...
I think it would be perfectly acceptable, maybe an occasion to try something new and scruptious, like risotto or a yummy curry or something...

Comment by The Peveteaux-Goldmans on November 19, 2008 at 11:13am

Why does that sound like an episode of "Friends?"

I would go potluck and/or order a pre-made meal from a delicious grocery store or specialty market.

Comment by Anselm's Mom on November 19, 2008 at 11:11am

Would Christmas without a large meat-based entree be unforgivable? My oven is 1) tiny and 2) incapable of holding any setting in between "off" and "broil." I'm stuck with the toaster oven for baking and broiling. So I either need to do stovetop-based meals (pasta?) or maybe just give up and have a potluck.

Comment by ContessaMia on November 19, 2008 at 11:05am

I've been blessed this year and will not have to make a turkey or host the event - I'll have to help my Mom out since just immiediate family and friend adds up to around 30! But a large turkey and ham will work out just fine - and definitely have people bring some sides or desserts, most importantly try to get as much done in advance as possible, and relax and enjoy - with a select cocktail - we're planning on Mango Mojitos this year - beer and wine, people will usually not notice small mishaps during the affair!

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