Aug. of '05 our divorce was finalized....we got re-married Aug. '06.
we basically had to start completely fresh. there were A LOT of lies. a lot of revelations. A LOT of therapy. It started out initially as going to family therapy so my kids wouldn't be screwed up. then he started proclaiming his love and that's when the therapist refered us to another therapist just for us.
to be honest, i guess i gave in when he proposed again.
-i do love him
-i'm a mother of 6 at that point. i don't want to go back out and date new people.
-i don't want to get married again (not my first marriage)
-my girls where already use to him and consider him their dad
i think if it weren't for the older kids being girls, i would not have given in.
i have no problem cutting ties, but i looked at things realistically....i might as well remarry this jerk instead of a new one. (lol)
for the most part, he's not a jerk. he's very mild mannered....i'm the crazy one (he knows because during the first marriage, i went in the kitchen and boiled a pot of water JUST to throw on him).
things are good now. it's just that at the time of that post, we weren't 100%. more like 72%....
i think out of all the crap i've been through in relationships (like i said, this isn't my first marriage) i would tell someone else to take the time and go to therapy. try to work things out. but when you've had enough, you've had enough. and it's okay to kick a guy to the curb.
i don't really rely on my husband for anything but to love me and the kids (and the dogs). so i didn't have things like finances factoring in my decision....which is something he doesn't like (he said in therapy that i'm too independent. no you mean you have no hope but to hope i just continue to want you around).
people worry about kids in divorce. i think it's case by case. kid by kid.
my kids were like, "whatever" about the whole thing.
i think mostly because they are young and are in their own world. my oldest, Mesa-13, got upset because she can put stuff together and is old enough to know what's up. she was mostly mad that he hurt me, and understood why i divorced him.
Thanks for your comment. I set up the group so that women (and the few men on here) can talk about anything regarding their marriage. so feel free to drop a line.
As of today, my marriage is good. we've been going to therapy (see blog post) and we're happy...working through things.
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we basically had to start completely fresh. there were A LOT of lies. a lot of revelations. A LOT of therapy. It started out initially as going to family therapy so my kids wouldn't be screwed up. then he started proclaiming his love and that's when the therapist refered us to another therapist just for us.
to be honest, i guess i gave in when he proposed again.
-i do love him
-i'm a mother of 6 at that point. i don't want to go back out and date new people.
-i don't want to get married again (not my first marriage)
-my girls where already use to him and consider him their dad
i think if it weren't for the older kids being girls, i would not have given in.
i have no problem cutting ties, but i looked at things realistically....i might as well remarry this jerk instead of a new one. (lol)
for the most part, he's not a jerk. he's very mild mannered....i'm the crazy one (he knows because during the first marriage, i went in the kitchen and boiled a pot of water JUST to throw on him).
things are good now. it's just that at the time of that post, we weren't 100%. more like 72%....
i think out of all the crap i've been through in relationships (like i said, this isn't my first marriage) i would tell someone else to take the time and go to therapy. try to work things out. but when you've had enough, you've had enough. and it's okay to kick a guy to the curb.
i don't really rely on my husband for anything but to love me and the kids (and the dogs). so i didn't have things like finances factoring in my decision....which is something he doesn't like (he said in therapy that i'm too independent. no you mean you have no hope but to hope i just continue to want you around).
people worry about kids in divorce. i think it's case by case. kid by kid.
my kids were like, "whatever" about the whole thing.
i think mostly because they are young and are in their own world. my oldest, Mesa-13, got upset because she can put stuff together and is old enough to know what's up. she was mostly mad that he hurt me, and understood why i divorced him.
....and i keep typing. lol
Thanks for your comment. I set up the group so that women (and the few men on here) can talk about anything regarding their marriage. so feel free to drop a line.
As of today, my marriage is good. we've been going to therapy (see blog post) and we're happy...working through things.
I hope to hear more from you soon.
Happy Chatting!
-Zicea
Id like to take the time, to invite you to my mommy messageboard, for stay at home moms, wahm working, married, single and divorced. Teen moms, foster moms, even grandmas and those TTC and expecting, it only takes a sec to check us out and I asure u will love it there! www.grinsngiggles.org
advertise ur blog on my site for free or site