Three Ms's Blog (13)

Weekend Notes

Friday: Marcus went to Philadelphia for the parade in celebration of the Phillies winning the World Series. MIchael refused to wear his costume, but did enjoy the Halloween costume at day care. We had only 2 trick or treat visits. Go figure, the first time I have candy. Saturday: Met Mom and Pam (sister) at the mall. An attempt to keep my mom's spirits up. Michael enjoyed hanging with Auntie Pam and eating "Ma-Ma's" (Grandma's) ice cream. I attempted to go see a movie and was thwarted once agai… Continue

Added by Three Ms on November 2, 2008 at 11:13pm — No Comments

No Bite!

It's only Wednesday, but so far Michael hasn't bitten anyone this week. (Knock wood.) Our methods? 1. Daddy had a few talks with him on the way home in the car. I think they were along the lines of "Michael, no biting." "No bite!" 2. I ordered a book called "Teeth Are Not For Biting," which arrived last Friday. He likes it, especially the first 2 pages, which start with "Crunch! Crunch! Crunch!" 3. At the request of the teachers, he's been bringing a teething ring to school. I wasn't sure he'… Continue

Added by Three Ms on October 22, 2008 at 9:30pm — 1 Comment

Obama and Me

Please read my new blog entry. It's something I've been trying to get out for awhile but the subject of race and me is so complicated, I tend to get lost in the subject. Continue

Added by Three Ms on October 20, 2008 at 10:00pm — No Comments

Biting Commentary

I haven't posted about Michael's progress in day care. In the past month and a half things have gotten a lot better. Instead of clinging to me on the way in, he marches happily alongside me. He still cries when I drop him off, but it's mostly for show. I have developed a pretty good relationship with the teachers. I know almost all of their names (which is really impressive for me) and I have good conversations with the morning teachers when I drop Michael off. Over the last week a new challen… Continue

Added by Three Ms on October 12, 2008 at 2:53pm — No Comments

My Obama Baby

So as you can see, I have no problem with forcing my own political agenda on my son. I figure, he doesn't have one of his own yet, so what's the difference. I do know he is definitely all for governmental regulation of the financial sector--we've talked about it often. It's not his fault he can't pronounce "Obama" yet. I'm so happy that as a young African American boy, he has such a positive role model.

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Added by Three Ms on October 12, 2008 at 2:30pm — 1 Comment

New School Blues

Michael had the same daycare provider from 2 through 19 months old. Because she was was a close friend of mine, I never worried whether he was well cared for. Unfortunately, the 45 minute drive every morning was a drag, not to mention expensive (gas + Metro fare + parking). So I decided to put him in a day care center in my neighborhood. It’s a great place in a lot of ways: different playgrounds for each age group, organized activities, bright and airy surroundings. I was so excited for Michael… Continue

Added by Three Ms on September 9, 2008 at 10:09pm — No Comments

Sad Endings, New Beginnings

Friday, August 29 was Michael's last day at his Auntie Sheta's day care. It seems like only yesterday I was dropping him off for the first time, but it was actually 17 months ago. Now that he's older and can fend for himself, I feel a little more comfortable leaving him with strangers. It will really be great not to have to drive 20 miles each way every day. It's even greater not to have to ride Metro anymore!! At the same time, it's going to be so sad not to see Michael with all his friends ev… Continue

Added by Three Ms on September 2, 2008 at 10:00pm — No Comments

Prince William County Fair-Aug 9

Yesterday we went to the Prince William County fair. M's son and his buddy were with us, but they wandered off for some teen freedom. The first thing M and I did was buy cheese steaks, but unfortunately, I couldn't eat mine right away because Michael wasn't hungry and wanted to roam. And Michael is very INSISTENT. So I took him over to a little rubber duck game. All he had to do is choose a duck and select a prize. I selected a plastic slinky for him, since it seemed the safest thing to get. Of… Continue

Added by Three Ms on August 10, 2008 at 10:06pm — No Comments

A Letter To Michael: Sorry

Dear Michael: You are 16 months old now and life for me has changed so much. You are the child I have always longed for, the fulfillment of my life’s desire. That’s a lot to put on one little person, but I’m trying to let you be your own little man. You will have your own dreams to fulfill without taking on mine. Your existence is enough. That being said, there are some things about our life that I feel aren’t fair to you. And for those things I’m sorry. 1. I’m sorry I’m in my 40s. I really w… Continue

Added by Three Ms on June 13, 2008 at 11:18pm — No Comments

Disruption, Regression, Guilt & Depression

Until recently, my child was a model sleeper. Went down at roughly 8:00 every night with not so much as a whimper. Last Saturday we went to a birthday party and then to my mom's for the rest of the weekend. His naps and his bedtime schedule was disrupted. On top of that, I've been on vacation this week, further disrupting his usual routine. Since Tuesday, Michael has been crying when I put him down to sleep. I have veered between letting him stay up a little longer and letting him cry it out.… Continue

Added by Three Ms on May 30, 2008 at 10:27pm — No Comments

We Are All Extensions of Each Other

In my last post, I talked about my feelings of connection with my son. About how each day he moves closer to being his own person. During the week or so since writing that, it's been running around in the back of my mind. I'm sure my mother felt this way about me once. And then it dawned on me that I felt that way about her once too. As a child, as much as our parents see us as being a part of them, we view our parents as extensions of ourselves. A kid has no concept of their parent(s) having a… Continue

Added by Three Ms on May 21, 2008 at 10:51pm — No Comments

The Selfishness of Being a Mom

Mother love can be a selfish kind of love. Not entirely, but we all know about the selfLESS side of mothering. The sleepless nights, breastfeeding etc. But parts of being a mother are special privileges that are mostly (usually) the domain of the woman, the mother. That's what I was musing on today, the selfISH side of my relationship with my son. Pregnancy was kind of selfish. I enjoyed the special attention of my partner, my family, his family, our friends and even complete strangers. Long na… Continue

Added by Three Ms on May 14, 2008 at 10:47pm — 1 Comment

Hello

Michael is my son. He's 15 months old, 24 pounds and full of energy and attitude. I've always been around kids. I've taken care of lots of toddlers. I've even worked in a day care center. But that was when I was a lot younger and I didn't have to take them home. Now I've learned that being the mother of a toddler is EXHAUSTING. During the day, so many topics occur to me that I'd like to write about. But by the time I'm home and get a chance to fire up the computer, I'm so tired I can't think an… Continue

Added by Three Ms on April 30, 2008 at 10:13pm — No Comments